By Katie Palitto | Finding Adam Finding Eve Ministry
Sometimes Catholics think the Church has nothing to say about modern dating. Swiping? Algorithms? Ghosting? These didn’t exist when the Catechism was written.
But here’s what I’ve learned after fifteen years of ministry: The Church’s wisdom is exactly what we need for today’s struggles. We just have to know where to look.
On Feeling Like a Product
The struggle: Dating apps reduce us to photos and bios. We feel evaluated, commodified, used.
The Church teaches: Every person has inherent dignity because we’re made in God’s image (CCC 1700). You are not a product to be evaluated. You are a person to be encountered.
When you feel reduced to a profile, remember: The swipe doesn’t determine your worth. God does.
On the Endless Search for “The One”
The struggle: With infinite options, we wonder if someone better is just one more swipe away. We can’t commit because we’re always optimizing.
The Church teaches: Marriage isn’t about finding a perfect person—it’s about two imperfect people choosing to help each other become saints. The vocation is built, not found.
You don’t need a soulmate. You need someone virtuous, compatible, and willing to say yes to the adventure of holiness with you.
On Rejection and Loneliness
The struggle: The constant small rejections of dating apps accumulate into a weight that makes hope feel naive.
The Church teaches: “Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care” (Matthew 10:29). God sees every disappointment. He hasn’t forgotten you.
Your loneliness is real. Bring it to Him.
On the Pressure to Perform
The struggle: We curate our best selves online, hiding anything that might get us swiped left. Authenticity feels risky.
The Church teaches: Self-possession must come before self-gift (CCC 2346). You can’t give yourself authentically if you don’t know and accept who you are—including the parts you’d rather hide.
Vulnerability isn’t a weakness. It’s a prerequisite for real love.
On the Waiting
The struggle: “How long, Lord? Will You forget me forever?” (Psalm 13:1) The wait feels endless. We wonder if something’s wrong with us.
The Church teaches: Singleness isn’t a waiting room. It’s a season with its own purpose and dignity. St. Paul even called it a gift (1 Corinthians 7:7).
Your life isn’t on hold until you find someone. Live it fully now.
Practical Katie’s Insights
The Church isn’t out of touch—She’s timeless. Her wisdom speaks to the deepest parts of our struggles, even when the surface looks different.
Your homework: Pick one Church teaching from this list that speaks to your current struggle. Sit with it in prayer this week. Let it sink from your head to your heart.
The answers you’re looking for? The Church has them. You just have to listen.
You’ve got this. And God’s got you.
Katie Palitto is co-founder of Finding Adam Finding Eve ministry. Learn more at gameof.love.
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