By Katie Palitto | Finding Adam Finding Eve Ministry

If you’re reading this, you’ve probably already tried deleting the apps in a fit of frustration—only to re-download them a few weeks later.

I get it. That dramatic exit feels cathartic in the moment, but it’s not a strategy.

What if instead of quitting in frustration, you took a strategic pause? A 30-day reset designed not to run from dating, but to prepare for it better?

Here’s how.

Week 1: Rest and Notice

Days 1-7: Delete the apps (not your accounts—just the apps)

Your only job this week is to notice. Notice what comes up when you can’t check. Notice the urge to re-download. Notice how much mental space dating apps were occupying.

Don’t try to fix anything yet. Just observe.

Prayer focus: “Lord, show me what I’ve been seeking on these apps that only You can provide.”

Week 2: Reflect on Patterns

Days 8-14: Get honest about your habits

Ask yourself:

  • What was I really looking for? (A spouse? Validation? Distraction?)
  • What patterns kept showing up in my matches and conversations?
  • Did I present my authentic self, or a curated version?
  • What attachment wounds might be showing up in how I date?

As the Catechism reminds us, self-knowledge is essential to moral growth (CCC 1783). You can’t change patterns you can’t see.

Prayer focus: “Lord, reveal the patterns I’ve been blind to.”

Week 3: Fill the Well

Days 15-21: Invest in what apps can’t give you

The apps can introduce you to people. They can’t give you community, purpose, or peace.

This week, reconnect with friends. Do something you love that has nothing to do with dating. Go to confession. Spend extra time in Adoration. Fill the parts of you that were being drained.

Prayer focus: “Lord, remind me of my worth apart from my relationship status.”

Week 4: Prepare to Return (Or Not)

Days 22-30: Discern your next step

You don’t have to go back to the apps. But if you choose to, go back different:

  • Set specific time limits
  • Have clear boundaries about when you won’t swipe
  • Move off the app faster with promising matches
  • Keep your non-app life at 80% of your relational energy

If you decide apps aren’t for you right now, that’s wisdom, not defeat.

Prayer focus: “Lord, guide my path forward—with or without these tools.”

What Success Looks Like

Success isn’t finding someone in 30 days. Success is:

  • Knowing yourself better
  • Having healthier patterns
  • Being less attached to outcomes
  • Remembering your worth comes from God, not matches

Practical Katie’s Insights

A 30-day detox won’t solve everything. But it will break the compulsive cycle and give you space to think clearly.

Your first step: Pick your start date. Tell one friend who will check in on you. Then delete the apps and begin.

You’re not giving up. You’re gearing up.

You’ve got this. And God’s got you.

Katie Palitto is co-founder of Finding Adam Finding Eve ministry. Learn more at gameof.love.

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