Most dating advice gives you tactics. Texting rules. Conversation scripts. First-date strategies. And look — some of that is fine. But if you have ever felt like the advice you are getting only scratches the surface, that is because it usually does. The Catholic Christian Meta-Model of the Person (CCMMP) gives Finding Adam Finding Eve a different starting point: not “how do I get a second date?” but “who am I becoming, and who is God calling me to love?”
The Deeper Story
The CCMMP was designed as a framework for understanding the whole person in a clinical and formational context. As its authors explain, it “makes use of multiple personality theories and models of psychotherapy to understand the person and his or her problems and strengths in relation to each of the eleven dimensions of the person comprised in the Meta-Model” (CCMMP, Ch. 20). Those 11 dimensions include the person as created, fallen, and redeemed; as a body-soul unity; as called to vocation and virtue; as formed by relationships, emotions, cognition, reason, and a will that is partly free (CCMMP, Ch. 5).
What does that look like in coaching? It means we do not just look at your dating patterns — we look at the whole you. The CCMMP “not only provides an understanding of the person in general and of specific clients, but also gives students or faculty members a better self-understanding… it should move from being knowledge for clinical application to understanding of self” (CCMMP, Ch. 20). That is exactly what we aim for at FAFE. We want you to understand yourself — your wounds, your gifts, your habits, your calling — so that you can date with clarity and freedom.
The CCMMP also “advocate[s] for mental health professionals’ applying their training and skills not only to heal psychological disorders, but also to prevent problems from developing, and to enrich the lives of clients who are not ‘diagnosable’ or in distress, but who are not fully flourishing” (CCMMP, Ch. 20). That is most Catholic singles. You are not broken. You are not a project. You are a person who wants to flourish — and you deserve a framework that helps you do that.
What This Means for Your Dating Life
When your coaching is grounded in the CCMMP, the conversation gets richer. Instead of just asking “what are your deal-breakers?” we can ask: What virtues are you growing in? How has your family of origin shaped your capacity for trust? What does your prayer life reveal about your readiness? How do your emotions and your reason work together — or against each other — when you are discerning a relationship? These are the questions that actually move the needle.
Where to Go from Here
Ready to experience dating coaching that sees the whole you? Explore Finding Adam Finding Eve’s Game of Love program, or read about the CCMMP framework that makes it possible. You were made for more than a match.