Finding Adam Finding Eve’s coaching methodology integrates three pillars to prepare Catholic singles for marriage: theological formation grounded in Theology of the Body and the Catholic Christian Meta-Model of the Person, practical dating skills including the Game of Love tool and post-date evaluation, and community through small groups and mentoring. This three-pillar approach addresses head knowledge, heart healing, and hands-on practice together — because knowing the theology without the skills leaves you stuck, having the skills without the theology leaves you directionless, and doing either alone leaves you isolated.
The Deeper Story
Michael and I developed this methodology because we watched too many good Catholics fail at dating for preventable reasons. They’d read Theology of the Body cover to cover but freeze up on a first date. Or they’d be great conversationalists with no theological foundation for discerning whether a relationship was heading somewhere holy. Or they’d have both the knowledge and the skills but no one walking with them through the hard moments.
The first pillar — theological formation — is the foundation. We dive into St. John Paul II’s work from Theology of the Body and Love and Responsibility, and Pope Francis’ Joy of Love (Amoris Laetitia) helps teach us about developing loving and impactful marriages and families. We also draw heavily on the Catholic Christian Meta-Model of the Person, a framework that gives a rich comprehensive understanding of the nature of the person. This isn’t academic theology for its own sake. It’s the lens through which everything else in our methodology makes sense.
The second pillar — practical skills — is where formation meets Friday night. The Game of Love tool helps you understand your temperament and evaluate your dates. Post-date evaluation teaches you to reflect not just on chemistry but on virtue, peace, and compatibility. To date successfully as a Catholic seeking marriage, you must understand who you are, what love really is, what marriage really is, and what to look for in yourself and in a potential spouse. Our practical tools make those four things concrete and actionable.
The third pillar — community — is the one most Catholic singles are missing. Be accompanied by others is a core part of our formation path, alongside participating in the Sacraments, spending time with Jesus in prayer, committing to spiritual formation, and inviting others. Small groups, mentoring relationships, and honest friendships provide the accountability and encouragement that make formation stick.
What This Means for Your Dating Life
This methodology works when other approaches don’t because it refuses to separate what God put together. You are a whole person — body, soul, intellect, emotions, will, relationships — and your dating life touches every part of you. Our coaching addresses every part.
You’ll walk away with theology you can actually apply, skills you can actually use on a date, and people who actually know your story and are praying for you. That combination changes everything.
Where to Go from Here
Experience the methodology for yourself. Start with the Game of Love at gameof.love, explore our formation series at findingadamfindingeve.com, or call Katie at 913-488-7083 to talk about coaching. The investment is worth it.