Foundations

Every February 14th, store shelves overflow with heart-shaped boxes and red roses, but beneath the commercial veneer lies a powerful truth: Saint Valentine’s Day began with a martyr for the faith, and it has never been solely about romantic love. The historical Saint Valentine gave his life for Christ, embodying the ultimate gift of self. This Valentine’s Day, let’s reclaim the deeper meaning of this feast and celebrate love in all its beautiful forms. ...

A 3-part series by Michael Palitto, CTO & Co-Founder, Finding Adam Finding Eve Ministry Blog Post 1: “From Kitchen Table Ministry to AI-Powered Platform — How a Husband-Wife Team Built the Future of Catholic Dating with Vibe Coding” Target audience: Tech-curious founders, Catholic entrepreneurs, AI enthusiasts, ministry leaders Hook: A husband-wife team with zero venture funding built a full-stack AI platform — a next-generation remote marriage preparation system — that bridges online tools with in-person community, giving singles and couples 24/7 Catholic dating coaching. And the codebase itself was built with AI. ...

“Why can’t I find the one?” I hear this question constantly. In coaching sessions, in parish events, in DMs from Catholic singles who feel like they’ve done everything right and still end up alone on a Friday night. But here’s the thing–I always ask a follow-up question: The one for what? The one to make you happy when you’re sad? The one to travel with? The one to help you get to heaven? The one to love? Because how you finish that sentence changes everything about how you search. ...

Can we be honest for a minute? If you grew up Catholic, chances are the message you received about sexuality sounded something like a long list of things you weren’t supposed to do. Don’t have sex before marriage. Don’t look at that. Don’t think about that. Don’t, don’t, don’t. And if that’s all you heard, I understand why the Church’s teaching on sexuality might feel like a cage instead of an invitation. ...

Can I ask you something honest? When was the last time someone you went on a date with told you their intentions upfront? If you had to think about it, you’re not alone. We live in a culture where “dating” usually means an ambiguous series of hangouts with no clear direction, no expressed commitment, and no end goal beyond “let’s see where this goes.” And most of us have accepted that as normal. ...

Can I ask you something honest? Have you ever been on a date where everything looked right on paper, but the conversation felt like you were speaking two different languages? Maybe you’re the kind of person who walks into a room and lights it up, while they sit quietly in the corner, observing. Or maybe you’re the one who needs time to process your feelings, and the person across from you has already moved on to the next topic before you’ve finished your first thought. It’s not that either of you is wrong. You’re just wired differently. ...

If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance someone in your life has told you that chastity is important. Maybe a parent, a priest, a youth group leader. And there’s an equally good chance you walked away thinking chastity was mostly about saying no. I get it. That’s the message most of us received. Chastity was the long list of don’ts before marriage–no sex, no touching, no going too far. One long “no.” ...

Let me ask you something. When you picture your future spouse, what comes to mind first? Their smile? Their sense of humor? The way they make you feel when they walk into a room? Now let me ask you a harder question: Have you ever considered whether they’re prudent? Just? Temperate? I know. Not exactly the stuff of romantic comedies. But after coaching hundreds of Catholic singles, I can tell you this with absolute certainty: attraction gets you to the first date. Virtue gets you to a fiftieth anniversary. ...

If you’re reading this, I already know something about you. You’ve probably asked yourself this question more times than you’d like to admit–usually late at night, or right after a breakup, or scrolling through yet another dating app profile trying to figure out what you actually want. Who am I? Not the Instagram version. Not the version your parents hoped you’d become. Not the version you perform on a first date. The real you. ...

Let me ask you something that might sting a little. Have you ever caught yourself repeating the same pattern in relationships–choosing the same kind of person, making the same kind of mistake, ending up in the same kind of pain–and wondered why? It’s not because you’re broken beyond repair. But it might be because there’s a wound underneath the pattern that you’ve never let God heal. The Connection Nobody Explains Here’s what I’ve learned after fifteen years of ministry: sin and wounds are deeply interrelated. Sin doesn’t just cause wounds. It grows out of wounds. We often sin as a way of trying to escape the suffering that our wounds create. ...