Practical wisdom for Catholic singles seeking holy, lasting love.
Dating Apps & Technology
Dating Tip #1: Your worth isn’t measured in matches—log off and remember that.
Dating Tip #2: If you haven’t met after two weeks of texting, you’re dating a fantasy.
Dating Tip #3: Delete the apps for one week and notice what comes up in the silence.
Dating Tip #4: A profile is an introduction, not a relationship—move to real life quickly.
Dating Tip #5: The algorithm doesn’t know your heart; stop letting it dictate your hope.
Dating Tip #6: Three hours of scrolling steals an evening you could spend actually connecting.
Dating Tip #7: Texting all day isn’t talking—your heart knows the difference.
Dating Tip #8: If opening the app feels heavy, that’s your body telling you to take a break.
Dating Tip #9: Matches aren’t relationships; stop counting them like they matter.
Dating Tip #10: Put your phone in another room from 6-9 PM and watch your life change.
Self-Knowledge & Readiness
Dating Tip #11: Stop asking “Do they like me?” and start asking “Do I like who I’m becoming?”
Dating Tip #12: You can’t give yourself to someone if you don’t know who you are yet.
Dating Tip #13: Heal your wounds before you date, or you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you.
Dating Tip #14: Know your attachment style—it’s running the show whether you see it or not.
Dating Tip #15: Your family patterns will show up in your dating; name them before they sabotage you.
Dating Tip #16: Confidence isn’t knowing you’re perfect; it’s knowing you’re worth knowing.
Dating Tip #17: The most attractive thing you can be is emotionally healthy.
Dating Tip #18: Work on yourself not to earn love, but to be ready to receive it.
Dating Tip #19: If you’re not happy single, a relationship won’t fix that.
Dating Tip #20: Your temperament is a gift, not a limitation—steward it well.
First Dates & Early Dating
Dating Tip #21: A first date is just coffee, not a marriage interview—breathe.
Dating Tip #22: Ask questions and actually listen to the answers.
Dating Tip #23: Put your phone away entirely during the date—full presence is rare and attractive.
Dating Tip #24: Don’t interview them; have a conversation with them.
Dating Tip #25: One awkward date doesn’t mean anything—sometimes people need time to relax.
Dating Tip #26: If they’re late without texting, notice that—it’s information.
Dating Tip #27: Pay attention to how they treat the server; that’s who they’ll become with you.
Dating Tip #28: You don’t owe anyone a second date, but give good people a fair chance.
Dating Tip #29: Meet in person within a week of matching or you’re wasting time.
Dating Tip #30: First date chemistry isn’t predictive—some of the best marriages started slow.
Red Flags & Discernment
Dating Tip #31: When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
Dating Tip #32: Love bombing isn’t love—it’s a red flag wrapped in flattery.
Dating Tip #33: If they’re not over their ex, they’re not ready for you.
Dating Tip #34: “I’m not looking for anything serious” means exactly what it says.
Dating Tip #35: Someone who only texts after 10 PM wants one thing, and it’s not your heart.
Dating Tip #36: If they make you feel crazy for having standards, your standards aren’t the problem.
Dating Tip #37: Watch how they talk about their mother—patterns repeat.
Dating Tip #38: Inconsistent effort is a clear message; stop making excuses for them.
Dating Tip #39: If you have to convince yourself it’s working, it’s not working.
Dating Tip #40: A person who ghosts you did you a favor—they showed you their character.
Green Flags & Good Signs
Dating Tip #41: Notice if they ask follow-up questions—curiosity about you matters.
Dating Tip #42: Someone who keeps their word on small things will keep it on big things.
Dating Tip #43: Green flag: they have friendships that have lasted more than five years.
Dating Tip #44: Pay attention to how they handle disagreement early—that’s your future.
Dating Tip #45: Someone who respects your boundaries is someone who respects you.
Dating Tip #46: If they make time for you despite being busy, that’s real interest.
Dating Tip #47: Watch for kindness when no one’s watching—that’s character.
Dating Tip #48: A person who can apologize well is worth their weight in gold.
Dating Tip #49: Green flag: they have a life outside of you and want you to have one too.
Dating Tip #50: Someone who pushes you toward God, not away from Him, is worth pursuing.
Building Real Connection
Dating Tip #51: Vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s the only path to real intimacy.
Dating Tip #52: The spark matters less than shared values—chemistry fades, character doesn’t.
Dating Tip #53: Stop trying to impress them and start trying to connect with them.
Dating Tip #54: Ask about their dreams, their wounds, their faith—not just their weekend plans.
Dating Tip #55: Shared silence that feels comfortable is a better sign than constant talking.
Dating Tip #56: Real connection happens when you stop performing and start being present.
Dating Tip #57: A phone call beats a hundred texts—use your voice.
Dating Tip #58: Don’t just date them; get to know their friends and see who they become around them.
Dating Tip #59: Building trust takes time—don’t rush the process.
Dating Tip #60: The goal isn’t to be chosen; it’s to build something worth choosing.
Faith & Catholic Dating
Dating Tip #61: A smile after Mass beats a month of swiping.
Dating Tip #62: Pray for your future spouse, but also pray to become worthy of them.
Dating Tip #63: Shared faith isn’t enough—you need shared practice.
Dating Tip #64: God isn’t a vending machine; marriage isn’t a reward for good behavior.
Dating Tip #65: Discernment takes time—God’s timing isn’t inefficiency, it’s wisdom.
Dating Tip #66: Chastity isn’t just about waiting; it’s about seeing each other clearly.
Dating Tip #67: Your vocation is waiting, but you have to participate in finding it.
Dating Tip #68: Bring your dating life to prayer, not just your anxiety about it.
Dating Tip #69: A spouse who leads you closer to God is worth more than any checklist.
Dating Tip #70: Trust that God can write a better love story than you can imagine.
Rejection & Resilience
Dating Tip #71: Ghosting says everything about them and nothing about you.
Dating Tip #72: Rejection is redirection—trust the closed doors.
Dating Tip #73: One “no” doesn’t define you; neither does ten.
Dating Tip #74: Let yourself grieve the loss, then get back up.
Dating Tip #75: Not everyone will choose you, and that’s not a verdict on your worth.
Dating Tip #76: The pain of rejection is real—don’t let anyone tell you to just pray it away.
Dating Tip #77: Take breaks when you need them; rest is not the same as giving up.
Dating Tip #78: Stop replaying what went wrong; some things just weren’t meant to be.
Dating Tip #79: Your nervous system can only take so much—protect it.
Dating Tip #80: Every ended relationship teaches you something if you’re willing to learn.
For Women
Dating Tip #81: You can encourage without pursuing—warmth is not desperation.
Dating Tip #82: A man who’s interested will make it known; stop making excuses for passivity.
Dating Tip #83: Being approachable isn’t the same as being available to everyone.
Dating Tip #84: Your standards aren’t too high; the wrong men just can’t meet them.
Dating Tip #85: Stop shrinking yourself to make him more comfortable.
Dating Tip #86: The awkward guy at church isn’t creepy—he’s nervous; give grace.
Dating Tip #87: A man worth marrying will pursue you; let him.
Dating Tip #88: Don’t confuse butterflies with peace—anxiety isn’t attraction.
Dating Tip #89: You don’t have to chase; you just have to be open.
Dating Tip #90: Linger after the event, make eye contact, smile—encouragement isn’t pursuit.
For Men
Dating Tip #91: She can’t say yes if you never ask—take the risk.
Dating Tip #92: Rejection stings, but regret lasts longer.
Dating Tip #93: Lead with clarity, not games—tell her you’re interested.
Dating Tip #94: Nervous is fine; passive is not—do something with your interest.
Dating Tip #95: A woman who mocks your courage isn’t the woman for you anyway.
Dating Tip #96: Plan actual dates, not “let’s hang out sometime.”
Dating Tip #97: Consistency matters more than grand gestures—show up reliably.
Dating Tip #98: Your vocation requires risk; start practicing.
Dating Tip #99: Stop waiting for the perfect moment—it doesn’t exist.
Dating Tip #100: The right woman will appreciate your courage, not punish it.
Remember: You are created for love. Nothing can change that identity.
— Katie Palitto
Catholic Relationship Coach | Game of Love