You’re reading this because something in you still believes this could be your year. Not in a naive, “maybe Prince Charming will just show up” kind of way. But in a deeper way—a hope that refuses to die even when you’re tired of hoping.
And you might be tired. Really tired.
Maybe you’ve been on the apps for years. Maybe you’ve had your heart broken more times than you care to count. Maybe you’re starting to wonder if you’re the problem, or if everyone else is, or if maybe God just forgot about this part of your life.
I’ve been there. I really have.
Before I met my husband Mike, I was a divorced twenty-something who thought her romantic life was over. I had failed at marriage spectacularly. I didn’t include God, wasn’t formed well, and ignored the wisdom of people who loved me. I thought love alone would be enough.
It wasn’t.
But here’s what I learned in those painful years of rebuilding: finding someone was never the problem. Becoming the right person was.
The Truth Nobody Wants to Hear
Most relationship advice focuses on finding your person. Optimize your profile. Craft the perfect opening message. Present your best self.
But after fifteen years of walking alongside Catholic singles through Finding Adam Finding Eve ministry, I’ve noticed something: the people who find lasting, holy love aren’t the ones who got lucky. They’re the ones who did the work.
The interior work. The formation work. The soul work.
A year from now, you could still be exactly where you are—scrolling the same apps, having the same disappointing conversations, wondering why nothing ever changes. Or you could be transformed.
Not because you found someone (though you might). But because you finally became someone who’s ready to be found.
Three Movements That Actually Change Everything
At Finding Adam Finding Eve, we’ve built our ministry around three core movements: Find. Prepare. Discern. These aren’t marketing buzzwords. They’re the actual journey every Catholic single needs to walk.
Let me show you what I mean.
1. Find: Community That Holds You
The first thing we offer isn’t a dating pool—it’s a community. And I know that might sound backwards when you’re desperate to meet someone. But stick with me.
The Catechism teaches that “God loves us with a definitive and irrevocable love, that married couples share in this love, that it supports and sustains them, and that by their own faithfulness they can be witnesses to God’s faithful love” (CCC 1648).
Here’s the thing: We learn that kind of faithful love by watching it, practicing it, and being surrounded by people who take it seriously.
I’ve worked with so many singles who feel completely alone in their dating struggles. Their non-Catholic friends don’t understand why they won’t just “have fun.” Their Catholic friends are all married and can’t relate anymore. They’re isolated in their questions and fears.
That isolation is dangerous for your soul.
In our community, you’ll find others who are asking the same questions. Who get why you care about virtue. Who will challenge you to grow and celebrate when you do.
In a year, you won’t just know more people. You’ll have genuine friendships with people who share your faith and will walk with you no matter what your relationship status looks like.
2. Prepare: Formation That Actually Transforms
This is where the real work happens. And it’s the piece most dating advice completely skips.
Pope St. John Paul II, in his Theology of the Body, describes how the sacrament of marriage “strengthens and, one might also say, consecrates” spouses “to the faithful fulfillment of their duties; to realizing to the full their vocation” (Humanae Vitae 25).
But here’s what nobody tells you: that vocation doesn’t start on your wedding day. It starts now.
The preparation matters. Maybe more than anything else.
Through Game of Love, you’ll explore:
- Know Thyself: Who you actually are—your virtues, your wounds, your patterns, what you bring to a relationship and what needs to change
- Gift of Self: What authentic self-giving love looks like (hint: it’s the opposite of what dating culture teaches)
- Healthy Boundaries: How to honor your dignity while navigating modern dating
- God’s Timing: How to trust the process without white-knuckling or checking out entirely
I’ve watched people spend years on dating apps while completely ignoring this interior formation. And I’ve watched them repeat the same painful cycles over and over.
You don’t have to do that.
In a year, you’ll feel spiritually grounded and prepared. You’ll know what you’re looking for and why—and you’ll be able to articulate it with confidence.
3. Discern: Choosing with Wisdom (Not Just Feelings)
Here’s something I wish someone had told me before my first marriage: being a good picker is a skill. It’s not instinct. It’s not just “following your heart.” It’s formation.
The Church teaches that “the matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring” (CCC 1601).
Read that again slowly. A partnership of the whole of life. Ordered toward the good of the spouses.
Discernment asks: Is this person actually capable of that kind of partnership? Am I?
Chemistry lies to us all the time. Attraction can blind us to red flags. Loneliness makes us settle for less than we deserve.
Through our Relationship Readiness Assessment and the tools in Game of Love, you’ll develop the clarity to see past the butterflies to what really matters. You’ll learn to distinguish between compatibility and chemistry, between attraction and alignment.
In a year, you’ll be confident in your discernment. You’ll know what to look for—and what to walk away from, even when walking away is hard.
What This Actually Looks Like
Let me be really honest with you: I’m not promising you’ll be engaged by next December.
That’s not the point. And frankly, rushing toward that goal is exactly the kind of thinking that leads people into marriages they’re not ready for.
What I am promising is this: if you invest a year in this community and this formation, you will be transformed.
- You’ll have genuine friendships with people who share your faith
- You’ll understand the Gift of Self and how it shapes lasting, holy relationships
- You may have met someone worth dating—someone who truly aligns with your values
- Most importantly, you’ll feel confident, encouraged, and spiritually grounded regardless of your relationship status
You’ll be ready. Not just to find someone—but to build something real with them.
The Vocation of Love
Here’s the truth the world won’t tell you: marriage isn’t primarily about happiness. It’s about holiness. It’s a vocation—a calling from God.
CCC 1641 says that Christian spouses “have their own special gifts in the People of God” and that “this grace proper to the sacrament of Matrimony is intended to perfect the couple’s love and to strengthen their indissoluble unity.”
That grace is real. I’ve experienced it in my own marriage to Mike. But receiving it requires preparation. We have to become the kind of people who can cooperate with that grace.
That’s what Finding Adam Finding Eve is about. That’s what we built Game of Love to help you do. Find. Prepare. Discern. The three movements of responding to God’s call to the vocation of love.
Practical Katie’s Insights
If you’ve made it this far, you’re not someone who gives up easily. That persistence is a gift.
Here’s what I want you to do:
This week: Take our Relationship Readiness Assessment. Not to get a score that makes you feel good or bad. But to get clarity on where you actually are and what needs attention. Self-knowledge is the foundation of everything.
This month: Join our community. Stop navigating this alone. You weren’t made for isolation, and neither was your vocation.
This year: Commit to the formation journey. Not halfway. Not when it’s convenient. All in.
A year from now, I want you looking back at this moment as the turning point. Not because you met someone (though you might). But because you finally stopped doing the same thing and expecting different results.
You found a community that supports your faith. You prepared through real formation. You learned to discern with wisdom.
This can be your best year—not because of luck, but because of growth.
You’ve got this. And God’s got you.
With love, Katie
Ready to start? Take the Relationship Readiness Assessment and see where you are on your journey. Your best year is waiting.