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The Catholic Wisdom — What Scripture Actually Says About LoveA lot of people come to me with one verse lodged in their head — usually Ephesians 5:25 or the reading from 1 Corinthians they heard at someone’s wedding. That’s not nothing. But if Scripture is your only reference point for love, you’re working from a fragment. The full picture is much richer, and a little more demanding. What Is the Catholic Public Domain Version?The Catholic Public Domain Version (CPDV) is a complete translation of all 73 books of the Catholic Bible — 46 Old Testament, 27 New Testament — translated by Ronald L. Conte Jr. between 2009 and 2010. It includes the deuterocanonical books (Tobit, Sirach, Wisdom, Maccabees, and others) that Protestant editions omit, covering 1,181 chapters and 30,985 verses. Because it’s public domain, it’s freely available to anyone — which is why we use it throughout our coaching tools and content. ...

What Is the Catechism?The Catechism of the Catholic Church (Second Edition, 1997) is the Church’s official summary of what Catholics believe, celebrate, live, and pray — 2,865 numbered paragraphs covering the full range of Christian doctrine. It’s not a rule book. It’s a map of what it means to be human, and what it means to love. Why It Matters for Dating and MarriageMost men I talk to never cracked the Catechism open. They got bits of Catholic teaching in school or CCD, maybe some wedding prep, and that was it. That’s a problem — because the Church has been thinking about human love for two thousand years, and most of that thinking never made it into your CCD class. When a guy is stuck in a pattern of dead-end relationships or can’t figure out why nothing seems to work, the Catechism usually has a direct answer. Not because it moralizes at you. Because it’s accurate about what we are and how we got wounded. ...

After fifteen years of walking with Catholic singles, couples, and families, we kept seeing the same thing: a generation desperate for love and unequipped to find it. So we built something about it. Here’s what God has been doing at Finding Adam Finding Eve. A New WebsiteOur new home is live at findingadamfindingeve.com — built to serve the people we’ve been called to reach and to make it easy for parishes, schools, and families to bring Catholic formation for love into their communities. ...

24 Sources That Shape Everything We TeachMost Catholic dating advice falls into one of two traps. Trap one: pure theology. Beautiful, true, and completely useless when you’re sitting across from someone on a first date wondering if they’re marriage material. Trap two: secular dating tips with a Bible verse taped on. Practical, maybe, but hollow — because it doesn’t account for who you actually are. Katie and I built Finding Adam Finding Eve because we got caught in both traps. I spent my twenties making bad choices with no formation. Katie spent hers trying to hold together a marriage that was falling apart. We had to learn the hard way that good intentions aren’t enough — you need a foundation. ...

“I’ll figure it out on my own.” How many years have you been saying that? How many dating disasters, confusing conversations, and broken hearts have you processed alone in your bedroom, convinced that if you just think about it hard enough, pray about it long enough, or read one more relationship book, you’ll crack the code? Let me ask you something harde… Read more

We’ll talk about attachment styles all day. We’ll dissect love languages, argue about texting etiquette, and workshop our dating profiles until they gleam. But mention that there’s an actual enemy working against your love life, and the room gets quiet. I get it. It sounds dramatic. Maybe even a little medieval. But here’s what I’ve seen after ten years of coaching Catholic singles: the ones who keep falling into the same patterns, the ones who can’t seem to break free of that relationship they know is wrong, the ones who feel this strange pull toward the exact thing that will wreck them? They’re not weak. They’re being hunted. ...

Dating Without Coercion or FearCan we be honest for a minute? Some of you aren’t dating freely. You’re dating out of pressure. Maybe it’s the family group chat where every holiday ends with “So... anyone special?” Maybe it’s the biological clock ticking so loudly you can’t think straight. Maybe it’s the fear that if you don’t pick someone now, there won’t be anyone left. Or maybe you’re so afraid of making the wrong choice that you can’t make any choice at all. ...

What If You Could Coach With the Full Picture?Let me ask you something. How many times have you sat across from a client, or opened a message from one, and realized you were working with half the story? She tells you about the guy she’s been dating for three months. She thinks he might be “the one.” But something feels off, and she can’t name it. You ask the right questions. You listen well. You offer what you can. But in the back of your mind, you’re thinking: I wish I knew more. I wish I could see what she can’t see about herself yet. ...

A bad date is not a sign from God that you’re destined to be alone. It’s just a bad date. Take a breath. Resist the urge to spiral into “what’s wrong with me” or “there’s no one out there.” One evening does not define your vocation, your worth, or your future. Process it, learn from it, and keep going. The Deeper Story“You are not alone. These struggles … Read more

Openness to Life Starts NowLet me tell you about the most awkward first date question in Catholic dating. “So... how many kids do you want?” It usually shows up somewhere between the appetizer and the entree, delivered with the casual intensity of someone who’s been coached to “get the important stuff out early.” And honestly? I appreciate the intention. But if that’s the depth of your fruitfulness conversation, you’re missing the point entirely. ...