How you handle conflict in dating has a lot to do with your temperament. Some of us fight. Some of us flee. Some of us freeze. And most of us do all three at different times depending on how stressed we are. Understanding your natural conflict pattern – and the pattern of the person you’re dating – is one of the most practical things you can learn for building a relationship that lasts. ...
Every couple will have conflict. The question is not whether you’ll disagree – it’s whether you can disagree without destroying each other. Understanding temperament helps because each type has a completely different conflict style, and most of the hurt in arguments comes not from the issue itself but from two people reacting in ways the other doesn’t understand. The Deeper Story The choleric in conflict is direct, intense, and wants resolution now. They can come across as aggressive or dismissive, but what they really want is to fix the problem and move on. They need to learn that not every conflict is a problem to be solved – sometimes the other person just needs to be heard. ...