Discernment

“Why can’t I find the one?” I hear this question constantly. In coaching sessions, in parish events, in DMs from Catholic singles who feel like they’ve done everything right and still end up alone on a Friday night. But here’s the thing–I always ask a follow-up question: The one for what? The one to make you happy when you’re sad? The one to travel with? The one to help you get to heaven? The one to love? Because how you finish that sentence changes everything about how you search. ...

Let me ask you something. When you picture your future spouse, what comes to mind first? Their smile? Their sense of humor? The way they make you feel when they walk into a room? Now let me ask you a harder question: Have you ever considered whether they’re prudent? Just? Temperate? I know. Not exactly the stuff of romantic comedies. But after coaching hundreds of Catholic singles, I can tell you this with absolute certainty: attraction gets you to the first date. Virtue gets you to a fiftieth anniversary. ...