Virtue

If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance someone in your life has told you that chastity is important. Maybe a parent, a priest, a youth group leader. And there’s an equally good chance you walked away thinking chastity was mostly about saying no. I get it. That’s the message most of us received. Chastity was the long list of don’ts before marriage–no sex, no touching, no going too far. One long “no.” ...

Let me ask you something. When you picture your future spouse, what comes to mind first? Their smile? Their sense of humor? The way they make you feel when they walk into a room? Now let me ask you a harder question: Have you ever considered whether they’re prudent? Just? Temperate? I know. Not exactly the stuff of romantic comedies. But after coaching hundreds of Catholic singles, I can tell you this with absolute certainty: attraction gets you to the first date. Virtue gets you to a fiftieth anniversary. ...